The worst feeling parents experience – When the child does not respond properly and shows anger to whatever said
Effective communication with the children takes time and energy. We must first realize our own behavior and automatic reactions we deliver and slow down so that we can have time to choose a more considerate and attentive approach.
Education first begins at home. For every child parents are the gateway to the outside world. In addition to feeding them and protecting them, they take care of them. Carrying children through limitations and consequences, carefully listening to them and giving them autonomy, we will teach them respect. Children who have respectful, busy and consistent parents learn to regulate their emotions more effectively, better understand themselves and build more successful relationships with others.
To develop an attractive and lovable personality your role being parents is very important because the child reproduces everything he sees and is affected by everything he hears. That’s why parents need to be very vigilant when talking to their kids and should not incorporate your kids with the sentences that can be devastating for their self-esteem.
The increase annoying of parents for their kids` irresponsive behavior and harshness lay in the view that communication with kids is mistakenly treated by them. The most common mistakes that parents raise while talking with their kids are
Use of harsh phrases
Words do not inflict physical injury on the other, but they can be used as a linguistic knife.” The harsh phrases like
- “You are worthless”
- “You disappointed me”
- “Stop Crying!”
- “Then I do not love you anymore!”
- “I told you so soon.”
- “It is your own fault!”
- “You cannot do that anyway”
- “I do not want to see you!”
- “I knew immediately that you cannot do that!
- “You never become anything!”
- “I do not understand you!” become a curse and rob self-confidence. Children are also later blamed for failures
Rude behavior and increase volume
“The right formulation approach with a rude behavior drawn its meaning. The increased volume at first shuts the child`s brain and let everything go behind it leaving him blank from whatever you have delivered.
Another mistake parents always go with especially moms is Fuz talk. Talking excessive and passing comments on each of their attempt becomes irritating for them and in turn, develop irresponsible behavior against you and your orders.
Parents are always right
Young children believe what they say to parents. It counts for them because parents explain the world. But it does not come in a mean to regret kids in all their perspectives. Though you being parents experience the world but they are growing and pasting your sticker of only the parents knowing the right path for him will degrade kids to explore more.
The words with strong effects
Small words like “Always and Never” cause a great effect. “Never clean up your room!”, “Do you have to keep telling yourself that?” are standard phrases in parent vocabulary. So why should a child tidy up or remember something if parents do not believe it anyway?
Make up for statements
Mostly these messages are used unknowingly or without malicious intent, often even to prevent harm to children (“Let me do that so you will not hurt yourself.”). Out of anger or anger, on a bad day, parents sometimes go through phrases they never intended to say. If these exceptions, can a psychologically stable child, who otherwise experiences much love and affection cope.
Time to cope with
No one will ever question your good intentions, but there is a difference between educating your children and infecting them with your fears, or imposing your scale of values. Realize that the road they will travel will be different from yours, whether you want it or not. They are different from you. A different generation is born, in a different society, in a different context. They will never reach your own conclusions. Practice the following will lead your child to correctly understand you and take into account.
- Always formulate positively!
- Check which situations irritate you to “spells”
- Communicate at the level of your child
- Give your kids point of view an importance
- Offer him a lot body contact, approach the child close to you and stay in eye contact
- Do not scold for educational reasons, use loving sentences
- Let your conversation be brief
- Admit if you do not know anything and praise your younger for new discoveries
- Make your all explanations complete
So, dear parents, it’s time for you to open your eyes and realize what you’re doing. It’s time for you to grow up too.
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